Sex - First Time Tips/Advice?

Hi,


I'm turning 16 soon and have been with my boyfriend for a while and I expect sooner or later we'll have sex. I really feel ready and although I'm quite anxious I'm also looking forward to it.


I really just want some ideas of what to expect generally and also pain wise. Would using a lubricant help?


Also, I've been horse riding since for about 7/8 years now and I read on a few websites that the hymen may be damaged so my first time might be less painful?





Also, any general advice and tips very welcome!!


Thanks xxSex - First Time Tips/Advice?
Use protection, so you're not one of those ';16 and Pregnant Girls';


Usually when they say you damange your hymen from horseback riding, it means you already ';popped your cherry'; (Which means tearing the hymen) if it is really already torn you probably won't bleed or it won't hurt as bad.





But it also may hurt, so be prepared for that. Since you're young I doubt you'd need lube, like every else is suggesting. Just ease your way into it and your body will become excited (turned on) and you will become wet, and that will help it go in better.





Don't do it unless you're 100% ready, because once you loose your virginity, you can never get it back. Good Luck








p.s. someone who can't spell gynocologist probably ISNT one!Sex - First Time Tips/Advice?
16 is a very young age.. I dont understand why you would want to have sex just yet. But you are going to do it anyways. First time of having sex will be somewhat painful and uncomfortable. Even if your hymen is damaged from horse riding. You will still feel pain because riding isnt the same as having a penis inserted. Best way to feel comfortable is to take it easy.. Slow penetration until you are ready. Everything else will come naturally.
Remember that babies come out of your vagina, so it can stretch quite a lot. In theory no man is too large for any woman.





I would suggest that you follow these tips:





1) Make sure you really are ready to do this.


2) Do plenty of foreplay.


3) Either finger yourself or let him do it for you.


4) Make sure he wears a condom.


5) If you are still not wet enough, use some lubricant.


6) You should be on top, so that you can control the pressure.


7) Relax and enjoy.





Hope that helps.
DEFINITELY use protection. Its really good to use lube too, since it makes it more pleasurable and easier for him to slide in since sometimes during the first time you're so nervous that you dont get wet enough. Also, take it slow and start with missionary (him on top). You can just lie back and tell him what to do. And yes, your hymen can be damaged so it might be less painful. Lucky you. : )
Well,hun.. I just lost my virginity about 3 wks ago. It was amazing.


I am also 15, almost 16. I can tell you this.. Lube makes it sooooo much easier for the penis to slide in.


Or do foreplay. It makes you wet and ready to have sex.


It does hurt for like a few seconds once he gets deeper and deeper inside of you. If he goes real slow, your first time will be GREAT!


But yes, it did hurt for like 10 seconds,I'm not even joking.. and then when he had it in there for a lil bit,it felt SO good.
uh, it just comes natural. BUT I have to say, 16 is a little young. It might still hurt a little on the firs time, but that goes away after a while
well id make sure its not on a bed or something bc if ur hymen isnt damaged when u get ';ur cherry popped';most women bleed from it
get some ky jelly so it goes in easier.
ur too old,
just wait til marrige that is what im doing
Sex should never be painful, the idea that loosing your virginity hurts is pure myth and for the most part it's old fashioned sexist scaremongering get girls to avoid having sex, although it's possible for it to hurt it doesn't mean it will nor does it mean you should tolerate the pain rather than stop it. A virgins body is no different to a non-virgin, the problem of pain comes when a girl isn't ready to take that step or when she isn't aroused enough for penetration, for the most part this comes from ignorance as without understanding why pain might happen there is no way for a girl to avoid it, and if she experiences pain she will just tell other girls that this myth is true, which means more girls just accept this myth rather than educate themselves.





Vagina's are amazing, they can hadle a baby so can easily take a penis, when aroused it doubles in size, opens, lubricates and muscles relax so penetration is possible and other changes makes it pleasurable. People often say loosing your virginity is painful as the vagina needs to 'loosen', but if that was true sex would always be painful as the vagina doesn't loosen, it's elastic so it stretches every time and then after sex it goes back to it's original size. Arousal prepares the vagina for sex, but often people don't understand these changes or they will rush through foreplay forgetting that it's vitally important to have painfree and pleasurable sex. Lubrication helps too if not wet enough, it's not a replacement for foreplay but it is part of safe sex as it helps prevent damage to the vagina that can cause pain and leave you at risk of STI's. If a virgin still has her hymen in tact that this thin layer of flesh that partly covers the vaginal opening can break or stretch when they first have sex, this can be painful but it is just as likely to feel pleasurable or not be noticed at all, everyone is different.





Emotions are a huge part of it too, many girls have sex because of low self-esteem so they have sex to feel attractive or loved, they have sex before they're ready to take that step so they don't enjoy it and tense up rather than enjoy the experience to become aroused, sex is then painful. This is also true if you expect sex to hurt, you will tense up so penetration will be forced causing pain as your vagina isn;t ready for penetration. Girls have these experiences, or often lack education so don't realise they weren't aroused enough for penetration, they feel pain so believe this myth of pain the first time is true and tell other girls that it's true. Know what you want and talk to your partner, demand good sex by telling him how you feel and what turns you on, enjoy whatever happens safe in the knoweldge that if it hurts you can stop, no good guy would carry on or think badly of you.





Sex is something you have to teach yourself about and you will spend your whole life learning, this sort of thing is very much basics about your body and sex so you really need to educate yourself more about your body and sex before you take that step - be resposible and mature by making sure you're educated about sex before having sex,if you don't know these basics about your body and sex then although you may feel ready you really aren't ready to have safe and enjoyable sex. I'd recommend these articles from a very good site called Scarleteen;





From Ow! To Wow! Demystifying Painful Intercourse - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/f鈥?/a>





Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfri鈥?/a>





First Intercourse 101 - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual鈥?/a>