Then be there for her, carry on doing what your doing.. Its hard and it will only get harder but have to show her your willing to put the effort in you could be the best thing that will eva happen to this girl. Stick at it. Show her you are there for her when eva where eva what eva the reason. As long as she feels comfortable around you and she feels she can talk to u it will be fine. The only thing you two should both do is promise to be honest with each through and about everything break it and you'll lose everythign keep it and she will come round.
What eva has happened in her past it sounds like its going to be really ahrd for her to get ova this but she will it may take days weeks months probably years and even if u two do get together dont expect it not to crop up every now and then cos it will.
My advice is do nothign stick at it your working towards it you just need to give her time but keep going it sounds like your doing a good job of it at the moment keep going...Ladies, crazy situation. Tips, advice, insight?
See if she will go to counseling with you. If she wants a future with you she needs to get over the past.
affirm your love and committment to her and in the meantime, don't push. Find a third party mediator, a pastor, a counsellor, a female professional who will let her spill the beans and move on with you. She is probably so afraid her secret will drive you away that she needs the other outlet. When you have found someone on your own, suggest that she confide in that person and let hr know that you will never learn of it, unless she decides at some future date. Give her the out tactfully and let her know you are doing this because of your love. She might well take the offering and love you even more if she learns that she must rid herself of this and that your relationship does not depend on whether you know or not.
Well honestly you need to talk to her about it, ask her what happened and if there is any way you can help her. If she says no then you have to back off the subject. But you have to let her know that you love her and want to be with her and that shes the one you want to be with show her you care about her do little things for her. In time she will she what a wonderful guy she has and she will come to you. But you have to be there for her. I went threw something close to this but like her I was the one putting the wall up because of something that happened in my past it took time and a good guy to help me threw it. But she will come around.
It's sounds like you need to get a life.She is obviously A crazy B**ch.get rid of her,If she loved you like you thought she did,she will wake up,and apologize for treating you Bad.!
Sounds like she needs therapy or you both need couples counseling. Suggest that to her. If she really loves you she would be willing to get the help she (and you both) need. Otherwise you might be spinning your wheels for a very long time.
Fix it if you can,if not get over it.If you aren't happy she won't be either.
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