Losing Virginity Tips & Advice?

I'm 21 years old and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now, I have finally come to the decision that it is time...lol. So, I would love to hear any tips or advice anyone may have on how to lose your virginity in the most pleasurable easiest way possible...positions?


Also, another question.......


About how long does it take before sex is actually pleasurable to a virgin?


Also....would it help to use my fingers beforehand in preparation for it?Losing Virginity Tips %26amp; Advice?
1. Your own well lubed fingers are the best instruments to use for stretching yourself out and being ready. You can control them. You can't necessarily control his ';unit'; or his fingers. You need to be able to take at least two fingers, maybe three to avoid pain.





2. Make sure that you have at least one orgasm BEFORE you allow him to attempt penetration. This will relax you and make sure you are well prepared.





3. If you get on top you can control the pace and depth of penetration, and be able to stop if you feel you must. With him on top, there ain't no stopping, even if he promises he will.





4. Make sure that you have time, privacy, and security. Don't want those concerns.





5. With a caring, considerate, and patient lover, and if you are really ready, there is no reason for the first time not to be pleasurable.





Good luck. Be safe.Losing Virginity Tips %26amp; Advice?
You know what, it probably would help to use your fingers beforehand, not only to prepare for the feeling, but it may even make it not hurt. It often is uncomfortable the first time. By preparing yourself you can also figure out what you like and how you would like to be touched.


It's all about communication between you and your boyfriend. Make sure it's slow and steady and keep communicating with him during, eg how it is feeling, whether you need it slower or gentler, also how he is feeling. Good luck, and remember it only gets better with practise!
Ok well right now i have to tell you that you can't ask for tips on losing your virginity. it just happens. with the right mood and the right feeling things will just heat up and happen. but with good advice in mind you boyfriend should use his fingers to moisten you up or else it's gonna hurt. but the best advice is to just go with the flow, go with the mood and the feeling of the moment and eveything will fall into place. sex is somethen that we don't analyze and worry about how to do it. we just do it and it's ahmazing. (:
I would recommend you sticking with the missionary position the first time. Understand and accept that there will be some blood...so you can use a towel to be on the safe side. You can use your fingers beforehand but the fact of the matter is, it IS going to hurt. I can't tell you how much pain there will be, as it is different for everyone. He will be tearing the hymen. There is no way to avoid it.





It's perfectly normal to not enjoy it much the first time due to the pain. The good thing is that it will feel better the next time.
well its pretty hard question 1st I take its not your bf first time and he should probably know what to do and if at anytime you feel uncomfortable you should let him know cuz communication is everything and as to the positions well what ever works with your body and health and I think the first time is the worst but after that it gets easier so if you guys do it more than 1 that first day the more comfortable youll probably be or you could probably be in pain, who know only your body can tell you after because everyone is different and has different reactions but in anycase it should be special because regardless you will remember it for ever GOOD LUCK !!!! @ BE SAFE %26amp; USE CONDOMS AND GET TESTED SO YOUR BOTH CAN BE AT EASE
I think this is a very appropriate time to lose your virginity.





All I can say is this: Relax, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. Move slow. Make it romantic if you want it to be perfect. Just enjoy the moment. Make sure you're in the right environment. And if you want to avoid getting pregnant, use a condom - just a reminder!





This is what you can do if you want your first time to be perfect! :)
For me the easiest way was to have yourself on top so you have control of how slow or fast he goes in and what angle and all that. Rather than having him have control, either way it will hurt but wouldn't you rather have control of the pain? And as for how long it will take to be comfy for you, really it depends on the girl but say you do it once or twice a day for a week im positive it will be enjoyable for you. But really just the motion even tho it hurts is pretty enjoyable!! hope i helped!
in my opinion cowgirl(girl on top) would be the best b/c you can control the pain, it can depend, i mean mine was fine after the second till my boyfriend decided he wanted to be rough. and it would help cuz it would loosen you up some and wont hurt as bad, but it will still hurt dont expect it to be horrible cuz (in my opinion) it wasnt bad.


good luck and have fun


p.s. be vocal with your boyfriend and tell him if it hurts or not.
I would suggest the best position for a first timer is missionary. It allows your boyfriend to determine the amount of penetration as opposed to you riding him where he basically just goes all the way in.





There will be pain. But probably not that much. Have you ever masturbated with a dildo? If so, you've probably busted your hymen, and in this case, you won't feel much pain at all.





I would suggest a lubricated condom just to provide that extra little bit of viscosity.





Good luck and have fun.
I've never had sex but I can answer all of these questions. Best position would be him on top. That's just how it's usually done. I think? After your first time, if painful, it'll hurt the first time you pee. Not sure why, but it will. And sex starts to feel good about the 3rd time. Atleast that's what I've heard. And to use your fingers beforehand would help loosen ya up. It will make your first time less painful and more pleasurable.





I would know, I have whores as friends :)
i would go to the cosmopolitan website for advice about sexual stuff... i cant believe that guy waited that long. thats kind of awesome hope he isnt cheating on you because you arent giving it up and you find out later. dont mean to be a bubble burster but just saying. sorry if you feel bad now. when i lost mine it hurt really bad. there no preparation much for it. if your vagina isnt big enough or stretched enough for the penis it will hurt. i suggest stay relaxed and just feel sexy and love every caress you bf will do that way you wont be tense stop thinking if you are doing it wrong. that would cause more hurting. just relax and feel free.
Mine wasn't enjoyable, shoot he went in about 3 times and he stopped, come to find out he did that to a lot of people. He had a black book I guess you would say to keep track of all the cherries he got. Now I was told if you really love somone that it will be enjoyable. The best thing I can tell you is to just relax, take it slow. set the mood, make it memorible.......... I wish I could take mine back but whats done is done. Think about how you want it set up. In a bed, at the pond, ect.......... this is something you will remember for the rest of your life.
It really depends on your pain tolerance. If you have a really low pain tolerance, you might want to wait until later to do the actual sex after you break it.





Also, foreplay really helps with pleasure, especially breaking it at your climax, since the pain is distracted.
use a lot of lube make sure he will be slow and ask him to be gental. ask him to be nice to you try having him fondel you so you will feel whts going on have hiom 4 play you that helps !!!!!!!!!! are you sure you want to do this once you are no longer avergin you wont ever be a vergin agine!!!!!!!!!!!!
its going to really really hurt you the first 2 to 3 times depening on the person takes about 4 to 5 times before you will enjoy it. I cant believe you were strong enough to wait 3 years
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you'll enjoy it right away, you little slut....
use a lot of lube
Well done on waiting :)


The best position to start with on your first time will always be missionary. If it's his first time too then you have nothing to worry about.. You can both get the hang of it the same rate..


Put some music on that you both enjoy.. doesn't have to be peaceful music at all.. Club, Hip-Hop, House, Rock.. anything! takes the tension off your mind..


Dont make it into like a planned routine.. like you've practised it or seomthing and don't go straight into it..


I suggest kissing to start off with.. and then just get closer to set the mood and obviously foreplay.. I would advise buying lube as it's your first time.. and put a towel underneath you incase you bleed ( don't worry - its not as scary as it sounds )


First few times may be a little painful.. and after that you both will discover new positions that are good for you and it will be extremely enjoyable and bonding :)





I really advise you to relax.. If you don't your muscles will be tense and you will be tighter and it will be less pleasurable..


Maybe a couple of glasses of wine might help.